Post by Livia♥Jared on Jul 20, 2014 13:34:01 GMT -5
anon ask: You give out really inaccurate sexual advice and it's making me worry that you're telling people the wrong thing when it comes to their own bodies. 
Please don't continue to give sexual advice and instead link to scientific articles as proof.
my answer: this is why i stopped sexual nights before. why do you think YOU know better than me exactly? i may not always be right, because no one is, but it either happened to me or i did read about it.
health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/female-reproductive-system/vagina2.htm
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201109/the-rare-truth-about-tight-and-loose-women
read
anon ask: I'm really not trying to be an asshole it just worries me that you're further perpetuating myths about the female body that are inaccurate. I'm a certified sexual education teacher, I did a course through planned parenthood so I am educated on it
my answer: "im a CERTIFIED SEXUAL EDUCATION TEACHER... i did A COURSE THROUGH PLANNED PARENTHOOD so i am EDUCATED on it.”
are you fucking serious? ive had 3 kids, ive had “courses”. i know what these courses are about and you are not CERTIFIED SEXUAL EDUCATION TEACHER. youre a mother. period.
stop messaging me. these are not myths. they kill the myths that women have had for years. WRONG myths. now IM scared of the myths YOU will perpetuate to your children.
god.
anon ask: No I think you misunderstood. Planned parenthood is an organization dedicated to women's health and I have a literal certification through them to teach sexual education (as well as having a daughter). I'm really just trying to help, you're v rude
my answer: my boyfriend thinks its the kind of certification you get for attendance. as long as you stay awake for an hour, you get the certification.
her off anon (fanmail): I was absolutely not sending you any hate, just concern because the past few times I’ve seen you do sexual night you did give out information I know to be inaccurate. I taught sex ed at my college campus to help pay for my tuition, and it took longer than an hour of staying awake to get the certification to begin with. I have a four year old daughter as well. I wasn’t being rude at all, just trying to help and had you responded in a more receptive way I would have shown you exactly what I meant in the nicest way possible because my intentions are genuine. What use would I have out of sending you “hate”? None of that was hateful at all. I’m sorry you misunderstood the one message and took that as a chance to shoot me down. Again, I am completely willing to show you what exactly the incorrect information you’re giving out is and provide sources as well, just so your young followers aren’t receiving misinformation, even if you believed it to be correct because everybody is capable of making mistakes and being misinformed and that’s okay — so long as they’re willing to accept when they’re wrong and learn from it so they can help others reach the same goal. And as for “breaking mommy’s curfew,” I can assure you I am in no position to be given a bed time as I’m a married mother. Again, I really didn’t mean to upset you — my intentions were pure and I hope you can see that.
my answer: (ok i dont remember because i didnt save it but i was a bit rude maybe? i told her i didnt need her information and such. but then a friend of mine said she was curious about it so i msged her again about it. next fanmail is what she replied to me)
fanmail: Because I still care about the cause I’m even bringing up I will send you a fan mail in the morning with links and resources because it’s 3:41 am and I’m on mobile. I wasn’t outright accusing you of giving out BS info, because I know you wouldn’t say something you think is wrong. But I don’t think my age has any bearing on my intellect, particularly in a subject that I did work hard to get certified in (that you yet again invalidated and discredited). It’s okay to be wrong, but instead of attacking me it would have been more productive to at least see what I had to offer in regards to information and judge for yourself before claiming I don’t know anything.
Again, I’ll send you links and everything in the morning, as well as excerpts from the medical textbooks I have from my Emergency Medical Technician training courses. And if still you can’t see that I was just trying to help (and offer information I know to be correct) then I have nothing left to offer and I’ll just go away. I know you aren’t claiming to be a doctor but if you’re giving sexual advice wouldn’t you want it to be as accurate and medically relevant as possible for the sake of your followers? :/
— fuckmematty
my answer: still didnt save it but yea.
her on fanmail: I know I’m not always right though and I don’t think I’m being self-righteous at all. It’s just literally over a few things I’ve seen you say that I know to be myths about female anatomy, and it took me a while to sift through what was or wasn’t correct myself and I just want to help others do the same. I do know though that my age has no bearing on my intellect, however. My mother is thirty-six years old and good god is she stupid as hell. I could go on about my personal accomplishments that would further validate my claims but that’d be pointless; I’ll send the links in the morning and I just hope you can take it for what it is.
— fuckmematty"
her this morning on fanmail: "(http://tinyurl.com/o6uahb8)
(http://tinyurl.com/megwg6w)
(http://tinyurl.com/lpyfv76)
In response to these asks:
—>Sex should not hurt, ever, under any circumstances. If it’s painful then the hymen is TEARING (which is what can cause bleeding, and is abnormal). If the hymen is being torn it is because of insufficient lubrication which could potentially be indicative of lack of arousal which can be caused by disinterest, or fear of sex (or an underlying medical issue but this is typically not the case). A penis is never “too big” for a vaginal canal, depending on our partner’s sizes vaginas are versatile muscles and can expand or contract to accommodate our partners, and this is a primitive biological action that ensures easier reproduction. If intercourse is painful it is actually a medical condition that needs to be diagnosed by a doctor, called dyspareunia. (((http://www.aafp.org/afp/2001/0415/p1535.html)))*
(((http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/inadequate-lubrication)))*
(((http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-info/sexuality/understanding-sexual-pleasure)))*
—> I’m not going to provide more than just a few links but you’ve given sexual advice to followers who tell you they’re under the age of consent. I understand wanting to provide them with information when they ask but at the same time if they’re underage then you’re not doing them any favors by offering the advice. These are things they absolutely need to go to their parents, or a sexual education/health teacher about because of their ages. Some of those asks can be found here:
*(((http://tinyurl.com/n349wdm)))
*(((http://tinyurl.com/lfzqqt3)))
To be fair though I can’t really find another ask anyway, just thought I’d point it out. I know once my daughter gets older and curious I’d much rather have her asking someone that has some sort of degree or either her father or myself, and I would assume you’d want the same for your children, knowing they’re receiving the best, most accurate information, y’know?
I don’t want to keep going solely because I have a feeling I’m still going to be brushed off. But if you’re interested and would like me to continue, I absolutely will. I think what you’re doing trying to help people is great, and you should definitely continue if you enjoy it, but I just want your information to be as medically accurate as possible for both your benefit and your followers’. And I did receive the fanmail about my age which is why I said the things I did. I’m not basing knowing what is or isn’t correct on this subject on what I think, it’s what I was taught during the courses I had to take to get certified. If there’s anything you have a question about feel free to ask but I hope you can see where you were giving misinformation, particularly in regards to sex hurting/the hymen tearing. Again: sorry if I offended you because that was not my end goal. I was only trying to help out of concern. Have a good day.
— fuckmematty
my answer: oh god, sweetheart...
the only reason im glad i asked you is because after getting your fanmail, i realize that i didnt give ANY false information and it makes me very happy. youre completely out of it, sorry.
i never said sex SHOULD hurt. i said sex CAN HURT. if you read THIS ask,
sexxxmestyles.tumblr.com/post/92309831346/i-masturbate-every-night-but-i-only-ever-rub-my-clit-i
and this post
sexxxmestyles.tumblr.com/post/92309398736/okay-let-me-explain-what-i-mean-some-girls-are
because it seems like i said the EXACT SAME THING you just msged me. so why dont you read before you judge? yea.
as for the too big penis. babe, it happens. do you want me to upload videos of porn with very extra huge dicks? i will. i made sure i said it was extra fucking rare. if you want the link to the porn, i will send you. and im talking about tiny girls having sex with big fat penises here, making it impossible for the guy to put it all in (yes, only the tip fits because our vagina cavities are not infinite). it. is. fucking. possible. frequent? NO. possible. YES.
i AM doing underage teen a favor by helping them. some of them were going to have unprotected sex with ppl they dont know. some of them were going to send naked pictures of them online to people they didnt know. some of them are scared, they feel like they have no one to talk to. some of them are misinformed. id rather have someone my daughter trust tell her "use protection" than her just doing anything without knowing. those ppl talk to me because they trust me, and they have no one to talk to because they dont want to ask their parents. come on, would YOU ask your parents about it? would that make you stop from trying things? (no, it wouldnt.)
really, this was useless. you sent me those anons without knowing and that pisses me off. youre 19. this is my blog. i dont provide false info, and you just confirmed it. you need to stop acting like a know-it-all and read everything before you actually judge and send those kind of asks.
her: Okay. I even provided reputable sources and you’re still being ignorant — willfully so. So that’s fine, and it’s your decision, but I feel sorry for the people asking you those questions. Not to mention you’re unnecessarily condescending when I’ve more than proven I can hold my own.
And yes, I would feel comfortable talking to my mother about absolutely anything sexual but I know not everybody has that luxury.
Anyway, I’m sorry you’re unwilling to accept the information you’re providing is incorrect but I wish you the best regardless (and your followers that are seeking advice from you, for that matter). Have a great day.
my answer: no, i said you were wrong. i said the EXACT SAME THING that you provided me links with. HELLO? youre being so stuck-up and condescending yourself. do you even read what you send me?
okay let me be extra mean here and say... you would be comfortable with telling your mom about sexual things? im sorry babe, you had a baby at 15. you and your mom had planned this?
i did not provide false info. i said exactly what you said, didnt you read my post? as for the big penises.. seriously, watch more porn. and READ what i say instead to be so narrow-minded. i said it was POSSIBLE. i said it was RARE. but it fucking happens. who are you to say this has NEVER EVER HAPPENED? god?
you need to stop acting like you know everything. you dont. im not providing any false info. either you realized this with the links i provided you and youre too stuck-up to admit you were wrong, or youre just an ignorant person.
Please don't continue to give sexual advice and instead link to scientific articles as proof. my answer: this is why i stopped sexual nights before. why do you think YOU know better than me exactly? i may not always be right, because no one is, but it either happened to me or i did read about it.
health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/female-reproductive-system/vagina2.htm
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201109/the-rare-truth-about-tight-and-loose-women
read
anon ask: I'm really not trying to be an asshole it just worries me that you're further perpetuating myths about the female body that are inaccurate. I'm a certified sexual education teacher, I did a course through planned parenthood so I am educated on it
my answer: "im a CERTIFIED SEXUAL EDUCATION TEACHER... i did A COURSE THROUGH PLANNED PARENTHOOD so i am EDUCATED on it.”
are you fucking serious? ive had 3 kids, ive had “courses”. i know what these courses are about and you are not CERTIFIED SEXUAL EDUCATION TEACHER. youre a mother. period.
stop messaging me. these are not myths. they kill the myths that women have had for years. WRONG myths. now IM scared of the myths YOU will perpetuate to your children.
god.
anon ask: No I think you misunderstood. Planned parenthood is an organization dedicated to women's health and I have a literal certification through them to teach sexual education (as well as having a daughter). I'm really just trying to help, you're v rude
my answer: my boyfriend thinks its the kind of certification you get for attendance. as long as you stay awake for an hour, you get the certification.
her off anon (fanmail): I was absolutely not sending you any hate, just concern because the past few times I’ve seen you do sexual night you did give out information I know to be inaccurate. I taught sex ed at my college campus to help pay for my tuition, and it took longer than an hour of staying awake to get the certification to begin with. I have a four year old daughter as well. I wasn’t being rude at all, just trying to help and had you responded in a more receptive way I would have shown you exactly what I meant in the nicest way possible because my intentions are genuine. What use would I have out of sending you “hate”? None of that was hateful at all. I’m sorry you misunderstood the one message and took that as a chance to shoot me down. Again, I am completely willing to show you what exactly the incorrect information you’re giving out is and provide sources as well, just so your young followers aren’t receiving misinformation, even if you believed it to be correct because everybody is capable of making mistakes and being misinformed and that’s okay — so long as they’re willing to accept when they’re wrong and learn from it so they can help others reach the same goal. And as for “breaking mommy’s curfew,” I can assure you I am in no position to be given a bed time as I’m a married mother. Again, I really didn’t mean to upset you — my intentions were pure and I hope you can see that.
my answer: (ok i dont remember because i didnt save it but i was a bit rude maybe? i told her i didnt need her information and such. but then a friend of mine said she was curious about it so i msged her again about it. next fanmail is what she replied to me)
fanmail: Because I still care about the cause I’m even bringing up I will send you a fan mail in the morning with links and resources because it’s 3:41 am and I’m on mobile. I wasn’t outright accusing you of giving out BS info, because I know you wouldn’t say something you think is wrong. But I don’t think my age has any bearing on my intellect, particularly in a subject that I did work hard to get certified in (that you yet again invalidated and discredited). It’s okay to be wrong, but instead of attacking me it would have been more productive to at least see what I had to offer in regards to information and judge for yourself before claiming I don’t know anything.
Again, I’ll send you links and everything in the morning, as well as excerpts from the medical textbooks I have from my Emergency Medical Technician training courses. And if still you can’t see that I was just trying to help (and offer information I know to be correct) then I have nothing left to offer and I’ll just go away. I know you aren’t claiming to be a doctor but if you’re giving sexual advice wouldn’t you want it to be as accurate and medically relevant as possible for the sake of your followers? :/
— fuckmematty
my answer: still didnt save it but yea.
her on fanmail: I know I’m not always right though and I don’t think I’m being self-righteous at all. It’s just literally over a few things I’ve seen you say that I know to be myths about female anatomy, and it took me a while to sift through what was or wasn’t correct myself and I just want to help others do the same. I do know though that my age has no bearing on my intellect, however. My mother is thirty-six years old and good god is she stupid as hell. I could go on about my personal accomplishments that would further validate my claims but that’d be pointless; I’ll send the links in the morning and I just hope you can take it for what it is.
— fuckmematty"
her this morning on fanmail: "(http://tinyurl.com/o6uahb8)
(http://tinyurl.com/megwg6w)
(http://tinyurl.com/lpyfv76)
In response to these asks:
—>Sex should not hurt, ever, under any circumstances. If it’s painful then the hymen is TEARING (which is what can cause bleeding, and is abnormal). If the hymen is being torn it is because of insufficient lubrication which could potentially be indicative of lack of arousal which can be caused by disinterest, or fear of sex (or an underlying medical issue but this is typically not the case). A penis is never “too big” for a vaginal canal, depending on our partner’s sizes vaginas are versatile muscles and can expand or contract to accommodate our partners, and this is a primitive biological action that ensures easier reproduction. If intercourse is painful it is actually a medical condition that needs to be diagnosed by a doctor, called dyspareunia. (((http://www.aafp.org/afp/2001/0415/p1535.html)))*
(((http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/inadequate-lubrication)))*
(((http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-info/sexuality/understanding-sexual-pleasure)))*
—> I’m not going to provide more than just a few links but you’ve given sexual advice to followers who tell you they’re under the age of consent. I understand wanting to provide them with information when they ask but at the same time if they’re underage then you’re not doing them any favors by offering the advice. These are things they absolutely need to go to their parents, or a sexual education/health teacher about because of their ages. Some of those asks can be found here:
*(((http://tinyurl.com/n349wdm)))
*(((http://tinyurl.com/lfzqqt3)))
To be fair though I can’t really find another ask anyway, just thought I’d point it out. I know once my daughter gets older and curious I’d much rather have her asking someone that has some sort of degree or either her father or myself, and I would assume you’d want the same for your children, knowing they’re receiving the best, most accurate information, y’know?
I don’t want to keep going solely because I have a feeling I’m still going to be brushed off. But if you’re interested and would like me to continue, I absolutely will. I think what you’re doing trying to help people is great, and you should definitely continue if you enjoy it, but I just want your information to be as medically accurate as possible for both your benefit and your followers’. And I did receive the fanmail about my age which is why I said the things I did. I’m not basing knowing what is or isn’t correct on this subject on what I think, it’s what I was taught during the courses I had to take to get certified. If there’s anything you have a question about feel free to ask but I hope you can see where you were giving misinformation, particularly in regards to sex hurting/the hymen tearing. Again: sorry if I offended you because that was not my end goal. I was only trying to help out of concern. Have a good day.
— fuckmematty
my answer: oh god, sweetheart...
the only reason im glad i asked you is because after getting your fanmail, i realize that i didnt give ANY false information and it makes me very happy. youre completely out of it, sorry.
i never said sex SHOULD hurt. i said sex CAN HURT. if you read THIS ask,
sexxxmestyles.tumblr.com/post/92309831346/i-masturbate-every-night-but-i-only-ever-rub-my-clit-i
and this post
sexxxmestyles.tumblr.com/post/92309398736/okay-let-me-explain-what-i-mean-some-girls-are
because it seems like i said the EXACT SAME THING you just msged me. so why dont you read before you judge? yea.
as for the too big penis. babe, it happens. do you want me to upload videos of porn with very extra huge dicks? i will. i made sure i said it was extra fucking rare. if you want the link to the porn, i will send you. and im talking about tiny girls having sex with big fat penises here, making it impossible for the guy to put it all in (yes, only the tip fits because our vagina cavities are not infinite). it. is. fucking. possible. frequent? NO. possible. YES.
i AM doing underage teen a favor by helping them. some of them were going to have unprotected sex with ppl they dont know. some of them were going to send naked pictures of them online to people they didnt know. some of them are scared, they feel like they have no one to talk to. some of them are misinformed. id rather have someone my daughter trust tell her "use protection" than her just doing anything without knowing. those ppl talk to me because they trust me, and they have no one to talk to because they dont want to ask their parents. come on, would YOU ask your parents about it? would that make you stop from trying things? (no, it wouldnt.)
really, this was useless. you sent me those anons without knowing and that pisses me off. youre 19. this is my blog. i dont provide false info, and you just confirmed it. you need to stop acting like a know-it-all and read everything before you actually judge and send those kind of asks.
her: Okay. I even provided reputable sources and you’re still being ignorant — willfully so. So that’s fine, and it’s your decision, but I feel sorry for the people asking you those questions. Not to mention you’re unnecessarily condescending when I’ve more than proven I can hold my own.
And yes, I would feel comfortable talking to my mother about absolutely anything sexual but I know not everybody has that luxury.
Anyway, I’m sorry you’re unwilling to accept the information you’re providing is incorrect but I wish you the best regardless (and your followers that are seeking advice from you, for that matter). Have a great day.
my answer: no, i said you were wrong. i said the EXACT SAME THING that you provided me links with. HELLO? youre being so stuck-up and condescending yourself. do you even read what you send me?
okay let me be extra mean here and say... you would be comfortable with telling your mom about sexual things? im sorry babe, you had a baby at 15. you and your mom had planned this?
i did not provide false info. i said exactly what you said, didnt you read my post? as for the big penises.. seriously, watch more porn. and READ what i say instead to be so narrow-minded. i said it was POSSIBLE. i said it was RARE. but it fucking happens. who are you to say this has NEVER EVER HAPPENED? god?
you need to stop acting like you know everything. you dont. im not providing any false info. either you realized this with the links i provided you and youre too stuck-up to admit you were wrong, or youre just an ignorant person.
